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Love Island’s Danny Bibby accused of ‘gaslighting’ Lucinda Strafford by women’s charity

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Danny Bibby has been criticised by charity Women’s Aid for his behaviour towards Lucinda Strafford which they believe ‘looked like gaslighting’.

The plumber, 25, was dumped from the villa alongside AJ Bunker in Wednesday night’s episode and had been coupled with Lucinda before they decided to go their separate ways.

Women’s Aid said they thought Danny’s behaviour towards Lucinda demonstrated ‘possessiveness and manipulation’.

Statement: Danny Bibby has been criticised by charity Women's Aid for his behaviour towards Lucinda Strafford which they believe 'looked like gaslighting'

Statement: Danny Bibby has been criticised by charity Women’s Aid for his behaviour towards Lucinda Strafford which they believe ‘looked like gaslighting’

Teresa Parker, Head of Media and Communications at Women’s Aid said: ‘Our team at Women’s Aid watched Danny and Lucinda’s relationship develop and became increasingly concerned with his behaviour towards her on screen, including what looked like gaslighting, possessiveness, and manipulation. 

‘This is clearly not what a healthy relationship looks like, and these are all tactics used by perpetrators of abuse.’

They added: ‘Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse which makes someone question their perception of reality and can be used to confuse, exhaust and control the victim. 

‘More widely, coercive control, which is a persistent pattern of controlling, coercive and threatening behaviour, has been a criminal offence since 2015 – you do not have to be hit to be abused in a relationship. 

Coupled up: Danny was previously coupled with Lucinda before they decided to go their separate ways

Coupled up: Danny was previously coupled with Lucinda before they decided to go their separate ways

‘We urge the producers of Love Island to recognise the signs of abusive behaviour when it is happening on the show, as this is not the first time it has happened. Abuse should not be used for entertainment, and producers need to know when to step in.’

MailOnline has contacted representatives for Love Island for comment.  

Danny came under fire for how he reacted when Aaron Francis tried to kiss Lucinda in front of him.

Viewers were worried he was showing several red flags after mimicking the blonde bombshell and the seriousness in which he confronted her for ‘mugging him off’ after only a day of being in the villa.

The plumber could be seen in the background looking shocked and was quick to pull Aaron aside – after branding him a ‘snake’.

Women's Aid said: 'Our team at Women’s Aid watched Danny and Lucinda’s relationship develop and became increasingly concerned with his behaviour towards her on screen'

Women’s Aid said: ‘Our team at Women’s Aid watched Danny and Lucinda’s relationship develop and became increasingly concerned with his behaviour towards her on screen’

He told him: ‘Lad, it’s my first night, yeah. I’ve just recoupled with her, and then you go and try and slap this on her.

‘You just look like a mug and she’s gone and mugged you off in front of everyone.

‘Do you not feel like an idiot? Like, do you not think I deserve a bit of respect?’

Viewers saw Danny and Lucinda end things on Monday after he pied her during the Snog, Marry, Pie challenge.

He said: ‘I’m not the type to chase you like a little dog. I’d rather take you down a peg and have banter with you. 

They added: 'This is clearly not what a healthy relationship looks like'

They added: ‘This is clearly not what a healthy relationship looks like’

‘I feel like you give nothing back to me. I’m not asking for a kiss, I’m asking you to come and ask me am I alright. I can sense you gravitating towards Aaron more than me.’ 

‘I need to just nip it in the bud I think,’ Danny said, to which Lucinda agreed: ‘You need to nip it in the bud.’

He added: ‘I don’t think we’re vibing with each other at all.’

‘No I don’t think we are to be honest,’ Lucinda said.

Speaking in the beach hut, Lucinda added: ‘I am so happy that Danny situation is over and out. Aaron is the nicest person ever I just can’t wait to get to know him more.’

Awkward! Danny came under fire for how he reacted when Aaron Francis tried to kiss Lucinda in front of him

Awkward! Danny came under fire for how he reacted when Aaron Francis tried to kiss Lucinda in front of him

It isn’t the first time accusations of gaslighting have been made towards contestants on the show.

Adam Collard sparked concerns over his relationship with Rosie Williams during series four when his head was turned by Zara McDermott.

Rosie confronted Adam and said he had been ignoring her, to which he said he didn’t ‘need to reassure her’ and said she was acting like a child.

In series five, Women’s Aid said Joe Garratt displayed ‘possessive’ behaviour when he told Lucie Donlan he thought it was ‘strange’ she was hanging out with Tommy Fury after they spent a ‘good hour’ together.

Fellow 2019 contestant Michael Griffiths came under fire from fans for his manipulative ‘gaslighting’ behaviour inside the villa towards ex Amber Gill when he recoupled with Joanna Chimonides during Casa Amor.

Backlash: The plumber has been this series' most controversial contestant to date with viewers calling for him to be removed from the show after a racist comment was unearthed

Backlash: The plumber has been this series’ most controversial contestant to date with viewers calling for him to be removed from the show after a racist comment was unearthed

Oh dear: It isn't the first time accusations of gaslighting have been made towards contestants on the show. Adam Collard sparked concerns over his relationship with Rosie Williams during series four when his head was turned by Zara McDermott

Oh dear: It isn’t the first time accusations of gaslighting have been made towards contestants on the show. Adam Collard sparked concerns over his relationship with Rosie Williams during series four when his head was turned by Zara McDermott

Shock: 2019 Love Island contestant Michael Griffiths  came under fire from fans for his manipulative 'gaslighting' behaviour inside the villa with ex Amber Gill

Shock: 2019 Love Island contestant Michael Griffiths  came under fire from fans for his manipulative ‘gaslighting’ behaviour inside the villa with ex Amber Gill

Doomed couple: In series five, Women's Aid said Joe Garratt displayed 'possessive' behaviour when he told Lucie Donlan he thought it was 'strange' she was hanging out with Tommy Fury after they spent a 'good hour' together

Doomed couple: In series five, Women’s Aid said Joe Garratt displayed ‘possessive’ behaviour when he told Lucie Donlan he thought it was ‘strange’ she was hanging out with Tommy Fury after they spent a ‘good hour’ together

It comes after Love Island was hit with more than 1,500 Ofcom complaints after Danny entrance in the villa last week.

The plumber from Manchester has been this series’ most controversial contestant to date with viewers calling for him to be removed from the show after a historic Instagram comment where he used a racial slur was unearthed.

Danny’s father Richard has quit Instagram after 1,081 viewers complained to Ofcom about the episode on July 15, in which the islander entered the villa.

Danny made his debut on Thursday evening’s show as a bombshell, however soon after the episode aired, fans delved into his Instagram and sourced the comment made in 2019. 

Danny apologised for his actions from the villa, saying he ‘meant no offence’ and has ‘learnt from his mistakes’. 

Shocking: The comment in question, written 85 weeks ago, sees an Instagram account which appears to be Danny's responding to a fellow Twitter user, who greets him with: 'Champ'. In response, the tattooed hunk's account replies: 'My n****'

Shocking: The comment in question, written 85 weeks ago, sees an Instagram account which appears to be Danny’s responding to a fellow Twitter user, who greets him with: ‘Champ’. In response, the tattooed hunk’s account replies: ‘My n****’

Three days later, the show sparked 426 complaints, after they played Kanye West and Jay-Z’s song N****s In Paris at the start of the episode after ignoring viewers’ calls for Danny to be axed.

Several viewers shared their amazement over the music choice on Twitter, with some saying that it was a ‘disrespectful’ and others being left in shock.

One viewer fan: ‘How ironic that @LoveIsland choose to use the song ‘N****s in Paris’ for that Danny boys intro that was a massive disrespect to all of us! Just wow.’ 

While another wrote: ‘I still can’t believe Love Island started last nights episode with N****s in Paris.’

And someone else tweeted: ‘love island really started off with n****s in paris as background music… the audacity.’

Not acceptable: Another message, dated 26th November 2019, has also been circulated, in which the account uses the same offensive term

Not acceptable: Another message, dated 26th November 2019, has also been circulated, in which the account uses the same offensive term

Danny’s father had previously jumped to his son’s defense and apologised on his behalf after the historic racial slur was unearthed.

Richard said at the time: ‘Danny does not have a racist bone in his body and there were no racist intentions to this post. I absolutely apologise on his behalf for the offence this wording may have caused.’

The comment in question, written 85 weeks ago when Danny was 23, sees an Instagram account which appears to be Danny’s responding to a fellow Twitter user, who greets him with: ‘Champ’.

In response, the tattooed hunk’s account replied: ‘My n****’. 

Shock: Three days later, the show sparked 426 complaints, after they played Kanye West and Jay-Z's song N****s In Paris at the start of the episode

Shock: Three days later, the show sparked 426 complaints, after they played Kanye West and Jay-Z’s song N****s In Paris at the start of the episode 

Reacting to the uncovered comment, viewers assumed the comment was sent by Danny and made their feelings abundantly clear, with one writing: ‘We demand that the racist islander Danny is taken off the show immediately.’ 

While another shared: ‘Danny is in fact a racist who previously used the n word on Instagram. @itvstudios @LoveIsland I assume you will be acting on this?’

‘Sorry but new boy Danny is racist and they are making our queen KAZ GO ON A DATE WITH HIMMMMM???? Sorry but throw the casting crew and directors in the bin’ tweeted a third.

This isn’t the only time Love Island has been caught up in a racism storm. 

Cruel: Danny's father had made an Instagram page during his time in the villa with the handle @dannybibbysdad, but has since turned it to private after inundated with hate messages

Cruel: Danny’s father had made an Instagram page during his time in the villa with the handle @dannybibbysdad, but has since turned it to private after inundated with hate messages 

In the 2020 winter series, the show was hit with 272 complaints in the first episode after Siânnise Fudge compared her partner Nas Majeed – the only Asian contestant – to Aladdin.

Danny and AJ were dumped on Wednesday with their fellow islanders deciding their fate after the they, alongside four others, received the fewest amounts of votes from viewers.

And after much deliberation, the pair – who were the newest islanders – were told that they would be going home after just a few days, just as three new bombshells arrived to cause a stir in the villa.

Love Island continued on ITV2 at 9pm.    

Exit: Danny and AJ Bunker were dumped on Wednesday with their fellow islanders deciding their fate after the they, alongside four others, received the fewest amounts of votes from viewers

Exit: Danny and AJ Bunker were dumped on Wednesday with their fellow islanders deciding their fate after the they, alongside four others, received the fewest amounts of votes from viewers

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